David, you challenged me to justify my point of view, and I did. You, however, haven't answered my questions, one of which I've now asked twice. Like I said, I'm willing to apologize for my admittedly harsh words, but it's not a one-way street. For that to happen I'm expecting you to either accept that I had a bit of reason to feel insulted or successfully argue that I completely misunderstood everything you said. So far you've picked neither of those options. Yes, I probably misinterpreted some parts but apparently not the most significant bits that released my venom. I'm not proud of what I wrote but I can't fully take it back either unless you give me a reason to do so.
In the mean time, let me explain my point of view a little better. I already explained that I wasn't very happy about your insinuations (or what I perceived as such) about my integrity. That was a red line for me. More generally but less seriously I got a little impatient with your constant assumptions during the discussion. A few examples:
David wrote:I appreciate that you are just gathering ideas at the moment
However both approaches make it straightforward to keep the mark-ups up to date - the problem you are trying to overcome.
Surely to say your system is "extreme-capable" is premature
The first two assumptions were obviously benign, but still a bit annoying because they weren't exactly accurate. In general, assuming a lot about your discussion partner is annoying. The third one was the most puzzling, however, and this is now the third time I'm asking you to explain it.
The trending assumptions were one reason why I called your style patronizing. Ironically, in your first, more conciliatory response, you apparently assumed (again) that I meant something else:
I'm sorry that you find my writing style pedantic, that was never my intention.
I never used the word "pedantic" which means quite a different thing. Your style may have hints of that too but it doesn't annoy me nearly as much, nor did I say it. I may be pedantic too. I meant what I said: patronizing (="treat with an apparent kindness that betrays a feeling of superiority"). Don't get me wrong -- you're fully justified to feel superior in this context. You're obviously a far superior sudoku solver than I may probably ever hope to be, and so is everyone else who's kindly answered my questions. I'm really grateful for all the advice I've gotten from all of you, and I've tried to express it too.
However, that's exactly why I don't really understand why you'd feel the need to -- ever so subtly -- put me in my place, so to speak. I think I have a pretty realistic idea of my "ranking" here, and I don't think I've given reasons to believe otherwise. That doesn't mean you'd be wise to automatically dismiss my one claim as hubris. That's just arrogant, and arrogance is the opposite of an open mind. A true master knows that he doesn't know everything, and that even complete beginners may sometimes have decent ideas he hasn't thought himself. Any other attitude discourages creativity and the free flow of ideas.
I am not interested in getting involved in heated arguments.
Me neither, but here we are. If such an unpleasant thing does happen, like it unfortunately did, I would prefer both sides to actually argue their sides so something could be learned and similar episodes avoided in the future. On my part, I've tried to clarify the reasons for my reactions as well as I can. I'd be grateful if you did the same.
I'm now too old to care much.
Apparently not. It's kind of funny that you said you didn't care but still expected me to understand that I had a 36-hour deadline to take back what I said. I usually take people's words at face-value, unless there's a historical or other reason to suspect hidden meanings. That's why I originally chose not to throw any more gas into the fire. I thought that's what you wanted, but obviously I totally misread you.