SadMan Sudoku can be set to allow and/or require various tactics in the puzzles it creates.
SadMan and
Sudoku Susser can be set to solve only the tactics you wish. If for some reason you don't like X-wings, you could set it to solve ONLY X-wings. Click on F9 (SadMan) or Deduce Single Step (Susser) after each manual entry and it will take care of these for you without giving away any other hints.
You can
fast forward through a puzzle using
Simple Sudoku by pressing F11 to check if there are any tactics you don't like. If it finds something you don't like, toss it and try another.
Both Susser and SadMan create a solution log. Solve the puzzle automatically, examine the log for the forbidden tactics. If it is to your liking, rewind or print it out.
Astraware's Sudoku of the Day includes a list of tactics required to solve each puzzle along with a general difficulty rating.